Waiting

aliviaandandrew.JPGApril 28: Alivia and Andrew are currently lying on the mattress we have temporarily stored in the sun room.  They are all wrapped up in the mattress pad.  Each has a baby doll.  And for the last ten minutes (which is a long time for little kids), they have been staring at the clock, whispering and waiting for it to be 1:00.  It’s currently 12:54.  I’m impressed.
PS.  They did wait until 1pm.  Then they put on a dolphin show…leaping and cavorting around like dolphins.  The dolls were baby dolphins.  SO cute!
Pictures of these two clowns are in the gallery.

Sylvia’s birth story

April 27: Heather just did a nice post on her website (lernerclan.net) about Evie’s birth story.  Reading it spurred me to write down Sylvie’s birth story.  I’ve been meaning to write it down for a couple months, and I better do it soon or I’ll forget some of the fun details!  I’m writing this for Sylvia to have in the future, but in the meantime, if you like this sort of thing, here’s our story.

Sylvia’s due date was calculated as February 8.  Andrew was born five days before his due day, so I was all ready for the little one to be born for about a week before.  It was a snowy, snowy week.  In fact, a couple days before I went into labor, we had a truly tremendous snowstorm.  Glad we weren’t trying to get to the hospital through that!  By February 10, the roads were snow free (but our street was covered in a very thick layer of ice).  Since we couldn’t get outside and since I was at a bit of a loss as to what to do with my humungous self, Bryan and I decided to go walk around Target and West Towne Mall to see if that would get my systems in labor mode.  While LuAnn watched Andrew, Bryan and I enjoyed one last pre-baby outing together.  We went to Target where I was delighted to find a couple final sets of the birth announcements that I’d been looking for for weeks.  Then we headed over to the mall and walked up and down.  At one point, I stopped by The Children’s Place and picked up a pair of teeny white fleece pants.  There were displays of Valentine’s Day clothes, but I didn’t bother looking at them since I figured I could still be pregnant when Valentines Day came around.
When we got home around 4pm, I sat down to address baby announcements and make some thank you cards.  It was about that time that I started having contractions.  Bryan joked that my body had just been waiting for me to have everything in order before kicking in labor.  Once all baby announcements were acquired, it was go time:)

I sat on the sofa and exerted some creative energy while I started experiencing contractions that pretty quickly became regular and about 5 minutes apart.  LuAnn made pasta fagioli for supper.  I really enjoyed it but ate rather sparingly, figuring that if labor progressed that night I might not want to have a full tummy of food!  During early contractions, I closed my eyes and took a deep breath.  They lasted about 20 seconds.  From 5-6 pm, contractions got stronger where I couldn’t listen to others talk during contractions.  Between contractions, however, I felt perfectly fine.  Andrew came over to talk to me after dinner, and it was pretty weird to try talking to a two-year-old while in labor!

After dinner, Bryan and I headed back to our bedroom while LuAnn put Andrew down to bed.  I was interested in hypnobirthing, so Bryan helped to make a calm, quiet environment for laboring.  We put on some soft classical music, turned off most of the lights, and propped me up on pillows.  Andrew came in to say goodnight.  Contractions were increasingly intense and were coming every 3-5 minutes.  After a while, we moved over to the tub where I labored for a while.  It was in the tub where I had some contractions that I thought I could have named as they do with hurricaines.

“Singing”

sadface.jpgApril 26: Sylvia spends a lot of the time she’s in her car seat…screaming.  I feel like I need a different word for that because screaming is such a violent, negative word and she does it so much that I want to re-name it something more positive.  So today as I again drove across town accompanied by her gasping, gurgling on saliva, full-throtle screaming, I decided that I will refer to such behavior as “singing.”  And as long as she was singing, I might as well sing too.
Usually I spend the first 5-10 minutes of a drive trying to soothe her by singing, shushing, stroking her face, trying to get her to take the pacifier, and then I give up and sit in resigned silence for the remainder of the drive.  But this time I put on a new kids CD I got at the library called Ralph’s World and sang Happy Lemonade about 10 times in a row.

The lyrics are as follows:

Happy lemons for happy days
Happy people with smiling faces
Happiness is a glass of lemonade

Lemonade, in the shade
Everyone loves lemonade

Happy lemons for happy days
Happy people with smiling faces
Happiness is a glass of lemonade

La la la la la la la la la
La la la la la la la la la
La la la la la la la la lemonade

So Sylvia and I “sang” a duet on our drive across town: me belting out “happy lemons for happy days, happy people with smiling faces..” and Sylvia “singing” wahhhh wwaaaahhhhh…gasp, gasp…silent scream…very audible scream…gurgle-cough from saliva that collected in the back of the throat during the last extended scream.  cough cough cough.  ANGRY cry from the coughing.  wahhhh waaahhhhh  waaaaaahhhhhhh. And meanwhile I’m at “la la la la la la la la…”

I may be scarring the poor girl by singing about happiness being a glass of lemondae while she’s in the throws of deepest carseat misery, but at least I’ll be heading toward a nice Willy Wanka-esque insanity:)

PS.  Joe did a nice post about Syliva’s carseat crying back in March.

My mom’s shopping finds

shortalls.jpgApril 25: In the last couple weeks, I’ve gone down to the basement and sorted through all Andrew’s old clothes to see what Sylvia can use and which things can get passed along to friends.  I had mixed feels about the whole experience.  I loved Andrew’s baby clothes, and it was wonderful to look through them all again.  But so many of them were either from my mom or I had purchased while with my mom.  And it made me really heart-sick to remember how much fun we had baby clothes shopping.
Now that it’s spring, I also just pulled out some clothes I had bought at the end of the season last year.  In the box were the last of the items that Mom and I had bought for Andrew together.  I still can’t believe she’s not here.

It is really hard to hold some cute outfit that we had discovered and loved over together and know that there won’t be any future clothes shopping trips with her.  I can remember the store, the rack, the other things that we bought that day.  Shopping was something we always had fun doing together.  And that’s really an understatement.

I feel so sad that my mom wasn’t able to have fun looking for clothes for her beautiful granddaughter.  And I feel really guilty for being the only one of my siblings to get to share a grandchild with her and to benefit from her parenting advice and expertise.
It really all just sucks.
Especially when I see the spring line of cute little boy shortalls that Mom admired last year and to be re-reminded with that hollow feeling in my gut that she’s not here to see them this spring.  So I guess I’ll just admire them for her.

Sylvia has met all her great-grandparents

April 25: Andrew, Sylvia, and I drove down to Janesville today and got to visit with my mom’s mom (Mum) for the first time since Sylvia was born.  Mum thought the little girl was just wonderful, and Andrew did an admirable job amusing himself in Mum’s rooms during our visit.  I had picked up some hamburgers from Culvers, so we all ate those and some of Mum’s yogurt, admired the baby, and went through some small items from Mum’s house (which has now sold).
Sylvia (who does NOT like her car seat) screamed for about half of each of the drives, but overall she did really well.
It’s a spring-y day, and our maple tree has just burst out full of the springiest green flowers.  The tulilps that we planted last fall are all coming up, and the magnolia tree I got for Sylvia is starting to bloom even though we haven’t planted it in the ground yet!
Beautiful spring is here.

Spa-like experience

April 25: I meant to write this post about a month back, but I never got around to it.
It was one of my first mornings home alone with both kids, and I decided to try to take a shower.  Andrew usually played in the bathroom while I showered, but he had recently learned how to open door knobs, so could take off and play elsewhere.  Sylvia was in her bouncy seat next to the shower so I could peak out and look at her.
So I hop in the shower, and almost immediately, I hear the door open-Andrew has left the room.  Oh well…hopefully he won’t destroy himself or anything else.
Then Sylvia starts screaming.  “OK,” I think, “I just need to be quick here.”
Then the steam from the bathroom floats out into the hall and sets the fire alarm off.  Great.  “This is relaxing and restorative!” I think over the screaming baby and the fire alarm.
Then Andrew comes in and announces (over the din) than he took off his diaper and had an accident.
I decide at that point to stop hurrying and just stay in the shower as long as possible.
Fun times!

Eveyln Rose Lerner is here!

babylerner.JPGApril 25 update – Her name is Evelyn Rose Lerner
April 23: I just got off the phone with Heather, and she is happily holding her sweet baby girl. The little one arrived at 3:33 this afternoon. She weighs 7lbs, 6oz and is 19.25 inches long. Heather said she has dark, wavy hair. She has super-long finger nails, a perfect little rose of a mouth, a little half-moon chin, and chubby thighs.
I’m hoping for pictures on their website (lernerclan.net) soon. Heather was doing well and sounded great. I’m sure it’s been a big several days!
Welcome new little one. You are much loved.
Some early pictures are in the gallery.

Baby Lerner should be arriving today

April 23: 1:45pm – No recent news from Heather and Michael, but early this morning, Michael’s blog post said that they were re-ramping up the pitocin and breaking the water with the idea of getting the baby out today. Heather called me last night after they’d stopped inducing for the evening. She sounded really good – a bit tired and pretty hungry, and she was alright that they were taking a slow approach to induction. The baby’s vitals were all looking good.
It’s strange to be calmly enjoying a beautiful day knowing that such a dear friend is in the midst of birthing her child! Especially after having so recently delivered Sylvia. Big times!

Gett’n by with a little help from my friends

boysatthezoo.JPGApril 23: We’re having a glorious day today. It’s about 1:30, and already we’ve had a full day’s worth of activities. We took the van in to get serviced, dropped Bryan off at work, went to the bakery so Andrew and I could enjoy cupcakes together, stopped in at the library and got some books, met friends at the zoo, and had a beautiful picnic lunch with same friends as boys romped about in the green green grass.
And at the moment (and when I say moment, I mean this one minute time period), both children are either asleep or at least resting quietly. Ahhh.
As I was trying to get Andrew in his car seat after our picnic, he wouldn’t go and Sylvia was screaming in my arms, making it difficult to just hoist the little guy into his seat. But a woman in the next car over noticed my predicament and offered her help. So she put Andrew in his seat (and he was so surprised he didn’t protest at all) while I buckled in Sylvia. And yesterday it was pouring rain and one of the volunteers at Olbrich offered to watch the kids while I drove the car around to the front so I wasn’t trying to get them both in the car in the rain. My initial response to such offers is, “No, that’s alright, I’ve got it.” But these past days, it’s felt really liberating to sort of acknowledge that sometimes the two kids is a bit bigger of a job than one adult with only two hands can manage. I’ve been feeling pretty good about accepting help from strangers. Makes life feel more manageable!
Pictures from the last several days are in the gallery.

Heather’s in and out of labor

April 22: I’ve been following Heather and Michael’s blog throughout the day. She was admitted to the hospital last night for her scheduled induction. As of mid-day today, it sounded like labor was progressing. However, this afternoon, what I’m hearing is that the things aren’t moving forward, so the doctors are planning on continuing with the drug-induced labor until 8pm tonight and at that point shut off the drugs to give Heather a chance to eat and sleep. Then they’ll start up again in the morning.
The medical professionals are all really happy with how both Heather and the baby are doing. And just so you know, whatever happened to Allan occurred before labor even started, so there isn’t any increased concerns about how this baby does through labor and delivery. We just really want to get her out and hold her!